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It feels like every couple of
months weeks, I’m blogging yet another sorry-I’ve-been-MIA posts! In fact, it happens so often, I’ve made this handy little graphic I can use to skip this awkwardness…
Here’s what I didn’t blog about the last couple of weeks:
Every blogger eventually feels a bit of burnout. With ADHD, the tendancy to burn out on *anything* is quite high. I was feeling less and less excited to post. I was feeling anxiety over days I should have posted this, or I need to get that post up. It’s easy to let blogging rule your life. It’s easy to push the kids aside and tell them Mommy is “working” even though Mommy really got distracted (again) on Pinterest.
I took a mini-break to avoid complete burnout and now I’m (sort of) back. But I’ll be doing it… slackery style. No anxiety, no stress. I’ll just blog.
Possibly spurring on my decision to take a short break from blogging, was the nasty cold that hit me immediately after returning from vacation. The cold took about a week to clear up, but the nasty coughing stayed with me. My coughing was far worse at night and I soon was out on the couch so at least my husband could get some sleep.
Eventually the coughing got so bad, I dragged myself and kids into the doctor. Not that the kids needed to see a doctor, but it’s always a package deal. *Mom sigh.* I had coughed so hard I pulled a muscle in my abdomen–or what would be, if I had any abdomen muscles of which to speak. *Mom sigh take 2.*
During church on Sunday, we learned that the street immediately across from ours hadn’t had power for a day and a half. Apparently, we’re real hermits to not notice that little detail. Walking home from church, our power went down too! Fortunately, my husband is the Rockstar of Crisis Management. We had loaned out our personal generator just moments before our power went down and so he went to work wrestling a work generator home to power our furnace.
I whipped up a big batch of hot cocoa on our gas stove which served the dual purpose of both warming our bodies and of convincing the kids that this was an adventure! We ate dinner at my in-laws while my husband wrestled home a generator. I read my kids the last chapter of Mrs. Piggle Wiggle* by flashlight and then entertained myself on my internet-less tablet. I woke up at five a.m. when the power turned on, and normal life resumed! We are definintely in need of non-tech gear in the event of a disaster of some sort!
Are you prepared in the event of an emergency or disaster like a power outage? (Okay, a short term power outage is not a real emergency, or a disaster… but it’s still best to be prepared!)
We’ve all had the World’s Nastiest Cold this last week. And by “we” I mean, “everyone but me.”
I have no idea how that happened–me not being sick. My toddler likes to put her hands on the sides of my face, and touch her nose to mine. Particularly so when she has snot dripping like a faucet and has a smoker’s cough. Also, I slept in bed with my husband whose cold is still dragging on. Also, I slept many nights with at least two other children, whose source of comfort seemed to stem from sleeping on top of me.
After last week… I’m a bit emotionally scarred. We’re still getting back on a schedule that constitutes real life. Like eating, getting out of bed, and even leaving the house on occasion.
The last week I have had plenty of thinking about blogging, but very little doing. We’ll remedy that.
Sooner or later.
(I’d totally tell you what awesome posts are coming up, but we all know that pretty much clinches it if I do: I will never actually post them.)
soooo….. how have you been??
Lately, as my children head out the door to their respective modes of transporation (we have a walker, and a middle school bus-rider) on the way to school, I’ve been feeling… unprepared. As in, I haven’t prepared them. Yes, they are smart, and they are generally good children, but I haven’t prepared them spiritually in those few precious morning minutes we have.
I’ve been meaning to Google “how to build your kids’ testimonies at breakfast,” but I just haven’t gotten around to it.
Fortunately for me, my wonderful friend Nicole, from MOMentity, went and got all inspired for me and then left a note on Facebook for me. I didn’t even have to Google it.
(Click the logo to go to MOMentity and download the series!)
Four weeks, five days a week: a simple scripture to read on a school-child applicable theme. They are both LDS and Christian friendly. They take just a minute of your time.
A minute of time, for the peace of mind knowing your children are going out the door on the right foot, knowing they have started their day with the word of the Lord in their heart.
In fact, you have now started your day with the word of the Lord. You have shown your children that to you, He matters. Even during a simple school day, He comes first. If you’ve taught your children that much… then you’ve reached your greatest success as a mother.
Sometimes, a mom needs a few tools in her arsenal. These toys may include a hidden stash of candy to halt a breakdown when you need to leave the house, or the silliest song to break up the monotony of a long drive. It could be the CD that lulls your kid to sleep every time, or perhaps its the nightlight they won’t sleep with, no matter where you go. Today, I want to talk about a tool that’s a great kid motivator: the timer!
10 Ways to Use a Timer With Kids:
1. Exercise Time! Set the timer for one or two minutes and see how many times they can run laps around your house, do a set of jumping jacks, or hop on foot. Do it right along with them and call it your exercise for the day, too!
2. Play With Mommy Time. Use the timer to set clear expectations. Dreading another round of Barbies or trucks, but feel guilty for putting your tot off constantly? Set a timer and let them know exactly how many minutes until Mommy is going back to her important stuff. (Facebook, anyone?) This will keep you from wandering off after 3.4 seconds into the ‘game.’
3. Break down chores. Use the timer to break down a large task into manageable pieces. If your kids’ friends left the playroom trashed on the last play date, don’t demand your child clean it all right this second. Tell them they just need to clean for ____ minutes, then you’ll jump in and help with the rest.
4. Race It! Set a timer and see how much cleaning you can do before the buzzer rings! Your kids will be amazed at how much they are able to do while racing against the clock.
5. Time out. What would time out be without a timer? A rule of thumb is to put your child in time out for one minute for year they are old. My two year old is in time out for two minutes, my four year old gets four minutes but I add a minute every time she screams while in her room.
6. Beep to Go! If you know your three year old will freak when its time to be torn from the beloved TV, let him know you’re setting a timer until its time to get ready. When the timer beeps, the TV goes off (or the toy dinosaurs get put away), and its time to go! (To get your kid to school on time with a timer, check out this post!)
7. Time for a Snack. If your child is the kind that won’t stop asking for munchies, set a timer during snack time to let them know when the next snack or meal will be.
8. Time to Go Potty! Potty training and timers can be a mom’s best friend. When you have other things to juggle (babies, older kids, pets, making dinner, etc.), it can be hard to remember when it’s time to take your toddler to the potty. Little tots are still learning to depend on their own body signals, so set a timer and stick to it. If your toddler doesn’t ‘go?’ Add another five minutes and try again.
9. Time for… Quiet Time! Is it just me, or does quiet time in my house equate to me closing my eyes for five minutes and my children doing something destructive? Start the timer and load them up with books. Older children should be able to start out at about ten minutes of quiet time and go up as they get used to the concept, and younger children can start anywhere from 2-5 minutes. A two minutes break doesn’t seem helpful to you, but you can gradually increase it. Just make sure your child is safe from hazards and markers! This is one we are just starting to work on at my house. :/
10. Time to Leave Mom Alone. :) Okay, seriously. Sometimes we don’t need to separate everyone and tell them to be quiet, we just want the kids to play nicely somewhere else for a few minutes. Keep your door open and let them know you’re listening (Mom is always listening!!), but ask them not to come back until the timer rings. Use your judgement on setting the timer. If your kids play well together, you may get a good twenty to thirty minutes alone, especially if the TV is on! If your kids are younger or are prone to bickering, you can make a quick phone call or check your email. With this one, I like to ‘reward’ (aka bribe) my kids. If they leave me alone, they get a treat, or some fun Play with Mom time!
How do you use a timer in your home?
WANTED: ONE MOM FOR TEMPORARY HIRE
Our fast paced company (The Family, Inc.) is currently looking to fill a temporary position for one Mom. Current Mom is seeking a Mental Health Break and would like to train temp worker prior to taking Leave. Job responsibilities include the emotional, spiritual, educational, and physical growth of current associates.
Successful applicant will be:
Trained in math and spelling up to seventh grade level, with history of working with teachers and other school support. Exp. in making doctor’s appointments and finding babysitter’s especially helpful.
Skilled in making dinner, though willing to train. Dinner must be filling, thrifty, and somewhat nutritious. Getting certain members of the the company to eat vegetables would be a plus.
Daily janitorial duties are required. Junior associates will disrupt applicant during cleaning process, so applicant should be able to multitask well. Associates will also make messes in the area previously cleaned, so patience is required.
Must have good eyesight for finding the Lego’s and misc. thumb tacks hiding in carpet. Applicant should not have a strong sense of smell, as she will need to wipe the rears of junior associates. Applicant will also need to have quick fingers to fill a sippy cup before junior associate cries, a strong voice for reading the same story over and over; physically fit is preferred but not necessary, though ability to chase after associates and company animal desired.
Must be available 24/7. Ability to sleep less than six hours a night would be a plus, as junior associate wakes several times for the potty. Drivers license required. Position unpaid, though highly rewarding.
As current mom is feeling overwhelmed and underqualified for the position, possibility to turn into long-term employment possible!